Above Rubies is a Free Christian magazine, dedicated to encouraging Motherhood. I highly recommend it if you are not subscribed to it
This is my article about Jonathan, that was published in the recent edition.
Who determines the value of life?At what week is life valuable? In California where we live, the value of life is set at 20 weeks gestation. That is the age a birth and death certificate is given -- that is the age it becomes almost impossible to have an abortion. When I was pregnant with my third child, I remember the doctor’s pitying look as he told us the baby would be severely handicapped -- and that we had just passed the legal age for abortion. But, he said, they could make an exception for severe handicaps and go ahead and abort him anyway. We told them we would never consider abortion. We would love our child no matter what. We cried out to God for a miracle, and on Feb. 24, 2005, we got one. Jadon Richard was born PERFECT. There were absolutely no handicaps, as the doctor’s tests had indicated. We named him “Jadon,” which means: "The lord has heard our cry." We chose this name even before he was healed because we knew that no matter what, Jesus had heard our prayers. Jadon now is a perfectly healthy, energetic six-year-old, who is a joy and a delight. I learned from that pregnancy that the medical profession deems quality of life over life itself.
In October of 2011, I found out we were expecting our sixth child. The scan showed a perfect 12-week-old baby. At 18 weeks, we discovered he was a boy. He was only 15 months younger than our toddler, and we were excited. We named him “Jonathan Anthony,” which means, “gift from God.” But a week later, we were shocked. At another check-up, the doctor couldn’t find his heart beat. We rushed to ER. To our dismay, our baby had died. We found comfort in thinking of him in heaven with my beloved father-in-law who had recently succumbed to cancer.The next day my mother and sister-in -law gathered, with my husband and myself, to say hello and good-by at the same time. I was terrified by what I would see. Would I be horrified by the toll death had taken on my tiny baby?
Jonathan Anthony came into the world on Jan 24 at 7:40 p.m., just minutes after his daddy laid hands on my tummy and prayed for God to deliver him. The doctor gave him to me so I could hold him. I was so scared to see him. I took him into my arms and felt instant maternal love and protection flood my heart. He was a little longer than my hand lying flat. His skin was thin and bruised. His hands and feet were perfect -- with tiny fingernails. Daddy said he looked like him. To me, he was so beautiful my angel baby boy. We held him and loved him the rest of his birthday. We prayed over him and spoke our unending love for him. At a little past midnight, we let him go. The pain of knowing I would never again see him on earth threatened to shatter me. Yet I also felt the presence of God whispering, "He is safe".
The doctor and the mortuary told us we would not receive a birth or death certificate. Jonathan was a few days away from the legal age counted worthy of acknowledgment of life and death. We do not need a certificate to tell us he lived, that he was a valuable, precious, loved person. I will always say I have six children -- five here on earth and one sweet son in Heaven. Jonathan had so much impact on the doctors and nurses who attended to him. They were impressed by our love for our baby and told us he was very lucky. We know that he is not lucky but blessed -- very blessed to be loved and wanted. Little babies his age and size are everyday legally scraped from their mother’s womb and thrown away. They are gathered into the Father’s arms, just as Jonathan was. But Jonathan will be remembered, talked of and loved the rest of our lives.
All life is a valuable, precious and wonderful gift. We must fight against the cultural lies of our age that put value at a certain gestational time. Don't let our culture taint your view on the value of life. We are bombarded continually by a subtle propaganda. In what week of gestation does life begin? We must seek the truth from the word of God. Jer. 1:5 says, "Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart." Do not judge the young mother who has succumbed to the lies of our age. Offer hope of Heaven, healing, salvation and restoration.
As Christians, we must be a voice of one crying out in the desert (Isaiah 40:3). Speak the truth in love. How very precious is life no matter how long it is lived. Nineteen and a half weeks was enough to stay in my heart forever, and Jonathan's soul is in Heaven for all eternity.
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I want to say thank you Trennia, she is such a wonderful encouragement always visiting others and encouraging them! Thank you Trennia
I am so very thankful for all of you. You let me know that I am not alone, that we stand together and cry together and pray together. Wherever you are at on this journey you are important. Please link up and know I am so grateful for you.
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Plant flowers in others gardens and your life becomes a bouquet!