I recently read the book,
In Faithfulness He Afflicted Me by Lynette Kraft.
Lynette Kraft is a mother to nine, six here on earth and three in Heaven. In this heartfelt biography she tells the story of her family's heartbreak at having to say goodbye to two precious infant sons and a six year old daughter. She is candid and descriptive in this inspirational story of loss and faith. Her personal journal entries are a transparent look into her heart and relationship with Jesus. Even if you have not walked the path of losing a child, there is wisdom to be gleaned from these pages. Her tender, personal, love for the Lord will inspired and encourage anyone. She has devoted her life to raising her children to love and trust the Lord as well as encouraging broken-hearted mommies.
Who would benefit from reading this book
- Anyone wanting encouragement from a heartwarming story of victory in trials.
- Mommies that have experienced the death of a baby or child.
- Mommies struggling with fear over a pregnancy after loss
- Mommies that have trusted the lord with their family size
- Anyone wondering why bad things happen to good people
- Pastors that want resources to help family cope with loss
- Anyone wanting the learn to mistier to those that have suffered loss.
A few quotes I loved:
"Worrying is a sickness, It feels like a sickness and it affects your mind and body like a sickness, I hate it. The only cure for worry is resting in Jesus truly resting." (page 140)
"Attaching the term defect to a person just seems so dishonoring to God considering it is an insult to his creative design." (page 105)
"If God had asked my permission would I have said yes? I thought about it for a while and decided I would! I would do anything to please the Lord even if it meant pain and sorrow." (page 72)
"Victory is when you can forge ahead with a feeling of excitement for the future, not just tolerating it or being okay with it, but truly anticipating great things." (page 297)
I love the way Lynette writes! I felt as though I was sitting with a friend, listening as she shared her personal experiences, helping me cope with my own loss. Her quote about saying yes to God when he asked her to walk through the trial of her children dying, profoundly touched me. In my heart I want to believe I would do anything the Lord asks of me. To think of Jesus asking, "Will you accept the assignment to carry Jonathan, even though he will never live on earth?" deeply changed my heart. I truly desire to do the will of Jesus. I want to remember this perspective of Jesus asking my permission for the rest of my life.
Another really encouraging point in her book was her thoughts on fear. She spoke of sickness or death reoccurring in her family, and the grace of God that carried her through three heartbreaking prognosis. I have been really fearful over a future pregnancy. All of my disillusionment that complication or even death won't happen to our family are gone. I feel her faith and courage under these trials helped me believe God will indeed carry me through anything in the future.
I have heard many Bereaved mommies talk about how they dislike being quoted that God will not give you more than you can handle taken from I Corinthians 10:13. Lynette's perspective on this verse is truly amazing and it alone is worth buying the book for. You will be so encourage by what she writes about this passage of scripture.
A few last thoughts:
- She had a surprising wealth of wisdom about performance oriented Christians and church attendance.
- I will be forever changed regarding the use of the term “birth defect”. I know that God does not make mistakes. I questioned why I would use a term that implies He does.
- The chapter regarding hurtful things people say helped me gain a new mindset- to give grace and forgiveness to those that accidentally offend me.
I highly recommend this book and plan on keeping a few on hand to give to mommies in need of hope. Lynette's testimony changed my perspective on Jonathan's death. I was so blessed by her love for Jesus in the midst of unimaginable trails.You will be encouraged and blessed to read her story.
I am giving away a copy of this book, to enter leave a comment that you would like to receive it. I will announce the winner next Tuesday. To enter twice, post it on Facebook and leave a comment that you did!
NO Rules, just link up and encourage each other! I am so thankful for you!
Here are some other link-ups to support and
connect with other mommies
Baby Angel Mama's link-up (Wednesday's)
The Journey (first Tuesday of every month)
.Whispering hope and support (on the 10th of every month)
Just an ordinary girl link-up for Mommies with a negative prenatal diagnosis now or in the past (Monday's)
and here are private Facebook support groups.
The person who blesses others will prosper; he who satisfies others will be satisfied himself.